Not My Problem(s).
Part of my being critical is seeing room for improvement in many situations. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve looked at a friend’s situation and thought, and even said, how much better it could be.
My just knowing this is a step in the right direction for recovery, but what is the next step? One thing I know is that if I can focus less on someone else’s issues and work to see my own then I can move on to actually getting my own house in order.
I find that as I’m trying to instill some admirable qualities in my kids I often am left searching for those same qualities in my own life. What a great mirror children are.
Today I sit in my office where I am surrounded by piles of papers. Let me count … 23. That’s on the floor, on my desks, … oh wait … there are a few more on the other chair. I am a stack person.
Sadly, I pride myself at being, or trying to be, organized. I’ve got a label maker that I use. Doesn’t that put me ahead of the rest of messaholics?
At the end of the day I simply need to focus on my of issues and then I can gloat while I move on to others’ issues. Isn’t that how it’s suppose to be?
- Kyle Dreier
December 15th, 2006 at 2:09 pm
I hear ya. I read a book this semester that has literally changed the way that I look at life; mainly at people. I’m not sure how good the book would be outside of the context of school, but I’ll suggest it anyway.
Martin Buber “I and Thou”
He’s a german philosopher/Theologian (though most wouldn’t call him a theologian) that wrote a book about relational encounters.
A very confusing and irritating book, but he has done the best job of convincing me that I view others as objects and “it’s”. Maybe I’ll send you my paper about his book first…